Middle of June Wedding Updates – candid photo, meet & greet options, and honeymoon fighting!

What a waste of a weekend. I’ve been really sick since Friday night – “acute gastroentritis”, the doctor called it. All my plans of going shopping for lehenga options have been thrown into the bin. As they say, “man proposes, God disposes”. Wedding workout has also been nil last 10 days.

Well, since I have a family that’s working on wedding planning like a well-oiled machine, there are still some updates to give –

Charge slightly more than bare minimum, but you understand that candid photography means no flash? I want to hire you!

My mother has taken charge of photography from me, because I was feeling overloaded with office work + wedding stress. She does the ground work and all the planning, I give my inputs as and when required. She spoke to 2 photographers – one was charging slightly more than the other, but he also understood what candid photography meant. We’re still meeting both, but I’m already biased towards the one who got what candid means. I also definitely want a photobooth, whether it’s on the Sangeet or Wedding, I’m not sure (ok, who am I kidding – I am sure. I want it on wedding day!) Now, I don’t know if these studio waala photographers know what a photobooth is, and how to set it up. *Anyone know how to do a DIY photobooth at the wedding?* I can probably explain it to them, and then they can set it up. And no, I most definitely don’t want a background set up for family potraits. So much effort will go into the decor at the wedding, I want to use the existing backdrop for all family potraits.

B&G do the meet and greet on wedding day with guests queuing up to get on stage?

Typically, at an Indian wedding, there is a stage. B&G (bride & groom) sit on stage. Greet the guests with a formal namaste. Fake a nod when saying “of course I remember you, uncle-who-I-last-met-for-5-minutes-when-I-was-7!” Then give your 500th smile of the day for yet another picture you will definitely not be printing in your wedding album. Another round of namaste and thank you for coming. Buh-bye. Neeeext!

Ufff…! What’s the point? However, we have tried thinking of a few alternative scenarios, but nothing seems to be working out. One hilarious scenario even involed a walk-a-lator, where guests get to say no more than congrats and bye because 5 seconds later the walk-a-lator ends and they’re off the stage!

So maybe we will do the typical meet and greet on stage. But I won’t give up so easily.* Any different ideas you have come across during someone else’s wedding, or your own?*

Babe, don’t criticize honeymoon itinerary so much. I’ve put in a lot of effort. You’re getting too involved. I’m not asking for your opinion anymore.

Ok, ok. Maybe I was getting too involved and talking in a highly emotional state (read: screaming). But, I trust tripadvisor.com! So much so, that I ask ALL my questions there! And I believe everything I read there! And…! Well, I could say so much more, but what’s the point? I was wrong in the way I tried to get my point across, but the fiancรฉ was also wrong in not being receptive enough. *My question to you is – did you, or do you, also fight with him when it comes to honeymoon planning?*

I’d really appreciate some help from fellow bride-to-be’s. Are you going through the same pain points?

16 thoughts

  1. Oh god. Be prepared for the worse fights of your life. We had major honeymoon issues. so we decided to just split te responsibility- he is in charge of whch cities we visit, im in charge of which hotels we book. He decides the restaurants, i decide the main attractions!


    1. Ah, lovely way to sort it out! Since we might be making bookings this week, we can’t go back to the beginning. I’ve given up completely now. He’ll do everything, and I’ll just chill! ๐Ÿ™‚


  2. Ahh tripadvisor. We have started depending on it completely so much so that we have discussions like this hotel got 900 excellents while the other only got 878, so we must go the first hotel. I hate honeymoon discussions….nothing but trouble!
    And you’re so fortunate your mom decided to shortlist photographers. It is a nightmare finding good photographers at reasonable rates. Everyone is like 80+!


    1. I have totally and completely transferred the entire honeymoon responsibility to the fiance. I am just going to enjoy the holiday when it comes, as it comes! I realised that, where we stay and what we plan will not matter to me at all. Anything will be great! ๐Ÿ™‚ So, I’m chilling now.
      Photographers are still causing a lot of problems – can’t figure out how to take out the time to meet all and who to shortlist!


  3. My fiance n i felt the same way about guests queing up to meet us n HATED the thought of having to pose with fake smiles plastered to our faces.. Solution – NO STAGE!! Since we r havng the pheras before most of the guests arrive we will be able to mingle n greet all of them personally.. The search is on for a candid photog who will understand our idealogy n go with the flow.. Fingers crossed!!


      1. We thot about this long and hard as well.. Final consensus was that no guest would leave the venue beforw meeting the bride n groom.. So they will cm to us n meanwhile we will b free to roam instead of sitting on a stage..


        1. How do you enusre that they don’t leave without meeting you? Also, what if people are generally used to forming a queue to get onto a stage to meet the bride and groom, but since we’re not on a stage but too many people want to meet us in a short span of time, how do you organize that so that there’s no queue to meet you even if you’re mingling in the crowd? As in, a way in which it’s not awkward for anyone to come up and just see you?
          Sorry for so many questions! But, I just really want to understand your method and see if it can work for me! i’d be really happy if it does! ๐Ÿ™‚


  4. Hey ask away!! I decided to have no stage after attending a friend’s wedding that didnt hv one.. Think of it like this – when you attend someone’s wedding you always meet the bride n groom.. So stage or no stage ur guests will make it a point to cm find u ( n u wont be hard to spot!! ) .. N as for the queue part.. I ve noticed that even with a stage set up just one family is able to stand n pose fr photogss.. The rest usually hang about below the stage.. So i think it would be safe to say that while ur mewting one set of guests the rest could stand around n wait ..
    Also i should mention that ours is going to be a smallish wedding.. About 250-300 ppl.. If u have larger ggathering a stageless settinng may not be the most practical.. Hope this helps!!
    P.s. – sorry fr the typos.. Stupid TOUCH y phn.. ๐Ÿ™‚


  5. Hey nice blog to read.. Can you please help me with the photographers.. I am also looking for some simple realistic ones.. Not all drama one

    And we are also planning for Australia so any inputs will be welcome :):)


      1. Its in January…I will wait for ur post ๐Ÿ˜‰ and in meanwhile may be u can gimme photographer name and contacts, i will get in touch with them


  6. This is a great blog, I just found it today! I am an American getting married to an Indian guy in India so this blog is really helpful since I don’t know the ins and outs of wedding planning in India/Delhi. Our wedding is in December and we found a good photographer (full disclosure, friend of a friend) his name is Abishek and his company is The Best Man (https://www.facebook.com/TheBestManPhotography).

    We also want to do a photo booth as we attended a friend’s wedding in the US that had one and it was so much fun. We haven’t found one yet, but my photographer also said that you can set it up pretty easily. You just need a timer function on the camera and then you can hire someone to click pictures rapidly as if it were in a photobooth.


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